Writing ‘Embracing the enigmatic truth behind my child’s happiness,’ has been an incredibly personal journey, as it is about my thoughts and feelings about my transgender son James and our relationship. It has been like trying to unravel a misshapen ball of knotted string. One of those annoying misshapen balls of string, that takes up a lot of room in a drawer that keeps getting things caught in it and should be thrown away, but it never does, because it will just take a ‘few minutes’ to sort out. But we all know that unravelling a tangled ball of string is going to require patience, determination and a lot of thinking through. As one bit of string is unravelled another tangled mess appears, with one knot leading to three or four other knots that seem to spring from nowhere. Undoing them seems impossible, but as with all puzzles there is always a solution.